Hello Rev. I had an affair on my husband for 2 years. I let this person go and hadn’t spoken to him in 2 ½ months. However, every thought I have is about him. I miss him and I truly love him. Everything I do I want to do with him and so on. He makes me truly happy. Every time I see him my heart races and I get the biggest smile on my face. I have prayed and asked God to remove these feelings from me. His feelings are still the exact same for me because I have been told by his friends. He said that he would wait on me however long it takes. I don’t know what to do. I know that it’s wrong, but I can’t seem to stop thinking about him. I read my Bible every day, pray and so on. It worked for a few weeks, but something is there and I don’t know what it is? Please help me!
It’s important to do what God’s Word says rather than what your feelings are telling you. The Bible says, “To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband.” – I Corinthians 7:10-11. Doing what God wants you to do will bring blessing into your life. According to what God says, unless your husband is being physically abusive, you should be seeking reconciliation. Whether your husband is a God fearing man or not, you shouldn’t divorce him. Also, just because you had an affair doesn’t mean it’s all over. Instead, you should be doing everything you can to rescue your marriage. This means seeking counseling, reading books about marriage, talking to a minister – whatever it takes. God hates divorce and He hates adultery, but He does help when it comes to marriage. If your husband isn’t giving you the love and attention you need, this is all the more reason to seek marriage counseling. It’s easy to have feelings for another man when you’re not getting what you need from the one you’re with. But God doesn’t give up on people and neither should you if you are a true follower of Christ. You should be praying for him and helping him heal from the adultery. Unless, you haven’t told him yet? I will be praying for you.
