My husband died unexpectedly a few years ago. He was only 35 and I was pregnant with our fourth child at the time. Because of the circumstances I wasn’t there when he passed away and I never really got to say good-bye. I have some friends that have been to a “Medium” to attempt to contact or get messages from their deceased loved ones. This makes me curious and tempted to try talking to a “Medium”. Mostly because I just want to say good-bye and I want him to know how much I loved him and still miss him. Is this a sin? Where do these “Psychics” and “Mediums” fit in with religion? Or do they? Am I sinning if I go to a “Medium” to say good-bye to my husband? Please let me know. I am very conflicted.

It’s very difficult to lose someone you love especially when you don’t have the opportunity to say “good-bye”. May I ask you where you are in your faith? Do you believe in life after death? Do you have the hope of seeing him again? My wife went through the same feeling with her brother when he died in a truck accident. She wished she could have said “good-bye” to him because he died suddenly and she was living in another part of the country at the time. She prayed and God gave her a dream where she was telling her brother that she loved him, they hugged and said, “good-bye”. When she woke up, she realized that God gave her a gift because that experience left her feeling so much better. As you can see, God answered her prayer in His own way. Consulting the dead through mediums isn’t God’s way. God said, “Let no-one be found among you who sacrifices his son or daughter in the fire, who practices divination or sorcery, interprets omens, engages in witchcraft, or casts spells, or who is a medium or spiritist or who consults the dead. Anyone who does these things is detestable to the LORD” – Deuteronomy18:10-12.

I understand how you feel, but if you were to pursue a relationship with God and allow Him to bring you comfort this would be the right thing to do. Mediums get their knowledge from demonic powers. They give people enough truth to get them hooked and then it’s a trap that takes them away from God and into more trouble in the end. I believe you’re interested in doing things God’s way or you wouldn’t have asked so talk to God and tell him how you feel and ask Him to bring you the comfort you need. He often waits for an invitation to help because He respects our freedom of choice.

There are a few other things I’d like to share with you. God loves you very much and understands the emotional pain you’ve had to go through since the loss of your husband. He wants you to know how much He cares. He wants to be your Heavenly Father and to provide for your needs as you learn to trust Him. God desires to have a personal relationship with you. This relationship is possible through Jesus Christ. It was His death on the cross that payed for our sins so that we could be forgiven. The only thing keeping you and me from having a relationship with God is admitting we are sinners and confessing our sins to God. I have personally taken this step and found God to be everything the Bible says He is. I asked Him to reveal Himself to me so that I could know He was real. I also asked Christ to forgive my sins and I surrendered my life to Him. It was the best thing I’d ever done in my life. I’d like you to have this relationship too as I believe this is what you need and are searching for even though you may not know it. We were created to have a relationship with God and until we do, we’ll never find true happiness. I’ll be praying for you to discover this kind of relationship with God. I know you said you believe in Him, but God wants you to know Him in a more personal way. Jesus said, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No-one comes to the Father except through me” – John 14:6. If you’re new to having a relationship with God, check out the link below which helps to explain God’s plan of salvation. God bless you.

Have you heard of the Four Spiritual Laws? – http://www.campuscrusade.com/fourlawsflash.htm