Adultery, Divorce, Remarriage and the Unpardonable Sin

I hope you can help me. I’m really obsessing right now and I feel so much torment over this problem. I have been divorced and remarried. I was told by many people and was taught at a young age that it was wrong and I would go to hell for getting remarried. I was the guilty party in my previous marriage. I have since remarried to a wonderful man and I’m trying my best to live the way God wants me to. I have been studying and doing research on both sides of this topic and I’ve come to the conclusion that I can stay with my present husband as long as I ask for forgiveness and remain faithful to him. I’ve done just that and I have even gotten baptized and am trying my best to be a better Christian every day. However, I am still haunted by those telling me that I’m still living in sin and that I must divorce my husband now to be saved! I myself cannot believe that getting another divorce will make it right. So it’s making me very confused and scared, but the real torment is this. It’s kind of hard to explain, but I’ll do my best. I hope you can understand me because I’m so terrified and worried right now I can’t concentrate or sleep or anything. I’m in such a panic with all these scary thoughts. The problem is that I think I’ve committed the unpardonable sin. I know for sure you cannot get forgiven for that right? I say that because I still have all these doubts about my salvation due to my past failed marriage. Also, in my present marriage I feel like I’m rejecting his word by not obeying what he said to do about divorce and remarriage. Everyone tells me something different about it. I’m always worried if I’m going to hell or not because I’m not doing what God asks me to do in this situation. Do you understand what I’m saying? So I really need your help. I’m so afraid right now and I feel so lost. The bottom line is that yes I believe in God and yes I believe Jesus died on the cross and rose again and yes I believe that he died to save our lives. So can you help me? Am I committing the unpardonable sin? Am I going to hell for these thoughts and feelings etc.? Do I have to leave my present husband to be saved? Can I remain with my present husband and still make it to heaven? Please help me, I’m trying so hard to figure all this out. I’m so afraid I’m lost and I’ll go to hell forever, but that can’t be true since I’ve been baptized and confessed his name and am trying to live right. I’m so confused and scared. Please help me and please tell me I’m not doomed for hell because I’m not sure of my salvation and what the right thing is to do in my situation.

I have read your email and I understand your question. First of all, when you asked God to forgive you for your failed marriage He heard you and forgave you. That settles it and you’re not “living in sin” now with your new husband. There’s no way returning to your former husband would make it right nor should you divorce your present husband. The people who are telling you to do this don’t understand repentance and forgiveness. You’re right when you said the best thing you can do now is to be faithful to your new husband. As far as committing the unpardonable sin, you definitely haven’t done that. Only an unsaved person can do that and it has to do with rejecting the Holy Spirit and His work in salvation. If you’ve repented from your sin and put your faith in Jesus Christ to save you and you’re living for Him the best way you know how, then you’ll go to heaven.



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